Author: Jess Dabre

Ya correct I got the idea of writing on this topic because of Suhant Singh Rajput’s sucide case. In this article I won’t be particularly speaking about his sucide, but will express my thoughts on ‘why do people even consider suicide as an option?’ 

First of all I want to share some stats:- 

1. In last 5 years, 40,000 students have committed sucide. 85% of them were preparing for IIT JEE and NEET. (Most of them form Kota, Rajasthan.)
2. Annually 135,000 people form age group 15-29 commit sucide in India.  
3. Annually 800,000 people commit sucide worldwide, out of which 20% belong to India.

The numbers in above stats may seem shocking and unbelievable, but they show us the bitter reality of our society. These  stats tell us how drastically our Education system is failing to provide students with basic values of life. 

Those 40,000 students committed sucide because they were taught that  your AIR rank will decide your future. Which is completely false. For  students preparing for JEE or NEET, getting into IIT college or AIIMS is the only purpose of their life. And when they fail to achieve that purpose, they lose their self-confidence and stop believing in themselves. Our system has made us believe that marks and rank decide our future. We have a great example of this, Sonam Wangchuk. Sonam Wangchuk has started a college for students who fail in 10th grade. Only condition to get into this college is, the student should have failed in 10th grade. Yes exactly opposite to the criteria used by any other college. Students who graduated from this college are doing good in their life. Because practical knowledge is more importance in that College. Their marks are not limiting their success.

We should be taught more about real life skills, which will make us more equip to live our life independently. In most of the other countries practical knowledge is given more importance than theoretical knowledge. In our life marks, good job ,success do matter but not as much as living a happy life. In our life what matters the most is life itself. Then why should we even think of ending our life because of  any question? We should Always remember that, things never go so wrong that they can’t be corrected. It may take time but you will always get out of difficult times. Many people keep comparing their lives with other, and consider that only they go through difficult times. But in reality everyone goes through difficult times, but those who persist and work hard over come it. But those who think that their destiny was to fail, at last end their life thinking life wasn’t fair to them. But actually they didn’t value the life they had. Nothing is destinied. It’s just another excuse to get rid of everything. There are many ways to a destination, yours may not be the easiest but can be the best. Never give anything more importance than your life. Always share your problems with your parents. Their advice at times can be wrong but their intentions would never be. Whenever you start feeling that your life is tough, just think about physically or mentally challenged people. Do you live a tougher life than they live?  They may have many weaknesses but their biggest strength is the HOPE to live. Never lose hope, keep believing in yourself. Life will always  find a way out.  

Often we hear people saying that having good communication skills is very crucial in today’s world. You must have wondered many times is this true? Is it so important to have good communication skills? Yes, in this commercially growing world good communication skills are key to success. You may have a lot of knowledge but to deliver it effectively is an key aspect. Let me explain you with help an example. Let’s consider you are CEO of a company. And you have a business idea which is efficient to increase the growth of your company. But if you not able to convey your idea to the employees, then you won’t be able to execute it. Then what’s the use of your idea. A school teacher also needs have effective communication skills, so that kids don’t get bore and keep learning.

According to survey done by oxford university, 79% of teenagers are not able to communicate properly. Why teenagers are not able to communicate properly? One of the main reasons is that, the rate of virtual communication is increasing and the rate of direct communication is decreasing. Virtual communication means, a communication which is done by using different social media handles like Instagram, WhatsApp, etc. When it comes to chatting every teenagers becomes a experienced stenographer of supreme court. They are extremely skilled in typing messages. But when it comes to speak publically, they fail. Because it is very easy to type a message, but speak something while keeping a eye contact becomes difficult. This is because teenagers don’t have confidence in themselves. Maya Angaleo says,” Even if you are lying, lie with such a confidence that it feels true.” Confidence plays an enormous role in personality development and the way we communicate. If in a job interview you are asked a question of which you don’t know the answer, confidently saying,” Sir, I don’t know the answer” can create a difference. Because that response shows your honesty and confidence.

Then how can we improve our communication skills? It’s not that difficult, just come out of your virtual world and interact with the real world outside. Try to improve your language, focus on your grammer. Have the zest to learn new words. Having good vocabulary makes it easy to communicate with people from different background. Take part in elocution competition it will increase your confidence and will you a chance to speak publically. While talking to anyone remember, that your words should be impactful. Be in process continuously, enjoy the process of improving your communication skills. Never get satisfied, just keeping gaining knowledge. Keep improving yourself. And surely you will come a great speaker one day.